When it comes to the world of dating, every guy has his own style.  There are guys who are looking for Ms. Right.  These guys are very sensitive, they really wear their heart on their sleeves, and they make a big deal about integrity, honesty, and all that emotional bullshit.  There are other guys, however, who know how the game is played.  These are pimps.  They know that in the world of dating you either kill or you get killed.  You either make the first move or you get stepped on.  These are the dudes that play the game in a merciless, some would say cold-hearted way.  Who do you think succeeds better?

Well, it depends on your target audience.  The problem most guys have with the art of the adult hookup is that they think there is some sort of magic bullet solution.  They think that there is some sort of one-size-fits-all approach that applies to all women at all situations at all websites.  I wish I could tell you that such an approach works.  I wish I could tell you there’s some sort of style that you only need to adopt and you will be getting pussy all day everyday.

Unfortunately, if I were to say that to you, I would be flat out lying to you.  That would be the same as telling you that the unicorn exists.  That is bullshit.  There is no such thing as a one-size-fits-all magical style that will work for you regardless of your situation, personality and other personal assets.  It’s best to play it cool.  That’s right.  I’m not saying that you should pretend that you’re James Dean or Marlon Brando and kick back and watch the scene and expect women to flock to you.  I’m not talking about that. 

What I’m talking about is that you need to take a quick snapshot of what’s going on around you and pay attention to your target audience.  What do you think they would want to hear?  What kind of persona do you think they would want to engage with.  In other words, pay attention to the details of the battlefield before raging war.  That’s the best way to win a battle.

Confidence is crucial

You see, a lot of people think that confidence is something you’re either born with or you don’t have.  That’s bullshit.  Confidence is contextual.  You have to look at the different peole you’re working with, engage a particular situation-based approach to confidence.  With some women, too much confidence is a turnoff.  With other women, not enough confidence gets them excited. 

You have to know how the lay of the land works out so you can project the right kind of confidence.  Ultimately, the best approach to adult hook up is essentially become more in tune with who you are and how to reflect that in the best form based on the situation you find yourself in